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I later mused about how common it was for one partner to come in seeking change, identifying the other as the problem, only to discover how much more complicated the situation was and how both parties were responsible for the friction between them.


A few days later I received an anxious call from her. She said an opportunity had presented itself, and in the gentlest manner possible, she pointed out how he sometimes took his frustrations out on her rather than on the people or situations they should be directed at. He went ballistic and walked out. You know, he doesnt want to hear that anything is wrong with him. I suggested that she give him some time to think about what she said. He wasnt used to being confronted LaDainian Tomlinson Chargers Jersey , it may have been difficult to take in.


There was a long silence and then she stated emphatically, \No I am going to apologize and try harder. He needs to feel more loved by me. But isn\t that what you have been doing all along? How is it going to be any different this time? Her reply, Well, weve managed to remain together this long, .

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